Oh, how I would love a change!
It’s about this time of the year that we suddenly realise that Christmas is almost here. Then from nowhere your inner voice produces statements like; where has the year gone, what have I achieved in the last twelve months or I’m still stuck in the same job. If this sounds like you then I want to give you an insight into why change is so hard and why we resist it.
Most people think of change as a negative experience we endure as best we can. But change is not always bad and it doesn’t always lead to bad outcomes. In fact change is the essence of improvement, innovation, growth, expansion and evolution. So why do people resist it?
Part of our resistance to change is internal. We simply assume that the change we face will result in bad outcomes and a future we won’t like. Many of us believe that things should remain the same and we do everything in our power to maintain the status quo. Some of us have difficultly adapting and we resist the extra effort required to figure out how to thrive in the changed circumstances. We can also feel victimised by the change and believe we are powerless to influence it. So where does this struggle to accept change come from?
Our mindset is made up of core beliefs and the values we hold about ourselves, others and life in general. These constructs create our fundamental assumptions about reality. This forms our worldview. They have been built up over time through experiences (both good and bad) and their associated stored emotions.
This explains why you can have two people perceive the same event in completely different ways. When your mindset deems a situation as “threatening” you will most likely experience, stress, fear, anxiety, sadness, doubt and so on. This is your mindset’s way of sounding the alarm bells based on your past experiences and emotions to similar situations. When your mindset believes an event to be valuable or supportive you will experience “expanded” emotions of confidence, excitement, happiness and pleasure. They are simply bodily sensations that are based on how you are interpreting reality at the time.
If you find yourself resisting change, take time to think about how you can use the transformation to your advantage. Is there anything that you can learn from it to enable you to expand and grow? Are there opportunities to acquire new skills and thrive in a new environment? It’s best to jump on board and be an early adopter and embrace change.
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